He's a great guy and I love to spend time with him, but my friends are giving me a hard time because I don't hang out with them anymore . . .
I've been dating my boyfriend Matt for a couple months now. He's really great-he cares a lot about me and what's going in my life, he's romantic and tells me I'm beautiful and he can't imagine being without me. He likes to spend a lot of time together, and I do too; whenever I have free time, I make sure I'm available to see him. He tends to get upset, or even angry, if he wants to see me and I happen to have plans with my friends. I think it's kind of sweet. It shows that he misses me. So I've given my friends some excuses to break plans a few times and have had to turn down invites to hang out . . .
And now my friends are giving me a hard time. They say Matt's dominating my life. They say he's controlling-that he's the one who decides what we do when we hang out, that I'm willing to drop my friends to see him, but he's not willing to do the same. I tell them he's just more assertive than I am and tends to make decisions, whereas I'm indecisive. And then they say they've seen him look really mad when I've been talking to my guy friends and don't think it's right when he pulls me away. They keep pointing out a time when he grabbed my arm kind of hard. But it didn't hurt that much or anything. And besides, when he gets jealous that just means he loves me, right? It's kind of flattering. He's even told me that it's because he cares about me and loves me that he finds it hard to "share" me with my friends. And he's pointed out some of my friends' really annoying traits that I didn't realize before, but now I do. Despite all this, I do miss my friends . . . but I want to make Matt happy too. I really care about him and don't want to make him angry. I'm so confused . . . is this a healthy relationship?
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