Stalking can be a very scary crime, even if the stalker never touches you. That's why stalking has been recognized as a serious crime in New Hampshire. A stalker is usually obsessed with the person he or she is stalking and wants to control that person's actions and feelings. A stalker could be someone you went out with and broke up with who is obsessed with trying to get back with you, or someone you hardly know who is fixated on you. Stalkers have the messed up notion that they can get closer to you by threatening, harassing, or in some cases even harming you.

If you think you're being stalked, you should talk about it with people you trust right away. Your local crisis center can provide information and support if you think you're being stalked. The police can also provide help because stalking is a crime.

Some things to do if you think you're being stalked:

• Document everything. Keep a written record of all incidents of stalking and harassment including dates, times, locations, witnesses, and exactly what the stalker was doing. Law enforcement agencies keep a log of every incident you report. Ask for a record of each report.
• Tell your family, friends, co-workers and neighbors - anyone you trust - about the stalking. Provide them with a description or photo of the stalker, and ask them to document in writing any incidents of stalking.
• Save all written material, cards, letters, notes, e-mails (print copies of them), and telephone messages the stalker sends you.
• Dial *57 after any harassing phone call. The phone company will trace the call for a fee. Keep a log noting the times of all phone calls and messages.
• Carry a cell phone so you can call for help if you need it. In an emergency, call 911 right away. Be aware of your surroundings so you can tell emergency personnel where you are.
• Change your phone number to an unlisted number.
• Change your e-mail address and only give your new address to people you know and trust.
• Use different routes when going places, and avoid walking alone.
• Park in well-lit areas, use a locking gas cap, and always check the passenger areas of your car before getting in.

Take care of yourself. Develop a support system that includes friends who are understanding. Call your local crisis center anytime, 24/7 for information and support.

REMEMBER - you have a right to feel safe. Stalking is a crime!